Find your dream partner on the internet in 3 easy steps

It’s actually quite easy searching for a partner on the internet. But only when you know how it works. And for that, we certainly have a fool-proof guide!

Millions of singles are pursuing a common goal. To find, someday, the one partner with whom they will spend the rest of their life. But where to find such a dream partner? In addition to your personal mindset, you have to be clear what you are looking for.

If you are certain that you are not one of those singles who is going to find their potential partner in the next yoga studio, then the internet could be an alternative.

Petra Frömsdorf
Expert since 2003
There is a lid to fit every pot!

From our longstanding experience we can tell you where the search is worthwhile and where you would be better to avoid.

1. Why are matchmaking portals better than flirt sites?

Just imagine that you are logged into any random portal. You have the opportunity to browse through a huge database. You can’t always tell, though, from the profiles if you have the same interests. You have to listen to your gut feeling and this may lead to disappointment under certain circumstances, if member X does not respond to your message.

At some point, you’ll realise that this profile has already been offline for six months. You have more luck with other users, but realise after the first meeting that your worlds are completely different.

A warm welcome to the world of flirt sites. The scenario often depicted is one of singles scrolling through the profiles of thousands of other singles every day. At some point, though, this becomes so frustrating that they put a stop to their online-dating activities.

Perhaps a different approach would bring more success! It’s not without reason that we recommend the reputable matchmaking agencies. Do you want to find out more? Here, in a nutshell, is all the important information:


  • The independent search is not required. During registration, you complete a personality test. Based on your results, only contact suggestions that really suit you will be displayed.
  • You remain anonymous. You are not part of an accessible database. Only members that match your algorithm will be shown your profile. On most portals your profile photo is also protected. You can make it visible to specific members.
  • If you’re not the daredevil type who makes themselves heard in the crowd,you still have the chance to be perceived as a single.


  • Matchmaking agencies can be very costly and not every single person can afford it. But that in itself means great potential! Whoever invests more money in the search for a partner is extremely serious about it.
  • You can only choose your dream partner to a limited extent.

2. How do you recognise a good internet-matchmaking agency?

If you have decided to give the whole thing a chance, you should be well informed. After all, you will be spending a lot of money, and the quality should also be just right! Before taking out a chargeable membership anywhere, you should peruse this check list:

  • What does the portal look like visually? Does it look sophisticated, as if a lot of time was invested in it? Are there customer testimonials? If the portal is already represented in the press, you can assume that it is reputable. No fraudster likes to go public with his scheming.
  • Can you view the general terms and conditions from the homepage? Then you can quickly find out how to cancel the service.
  • Very important! You should register free of charge and complete the personality test. Likewise, the price should be clearly visible.

3. How to increase your chances of finding a dream partner!

The answer is really simple. Be yourself! It’s no use pretending to be someone else online, leading to disappointment on the first date. That also means that you should take time completing the personality test. It’s no use deciding on an answer, if you are not sure if you can really support it.

If, during registration, you run into this problem, you can simply pause the test and continue at another time. Likewise, you should get involved in the experiment „serious partner search“ and not place excessive demands on potential partners.

Noone is perfect and the perfect dream partner is a utopian dream! Give people with rough edges a real chance to get to know you better. If it still doesn’t work out, you’ve still learnt some lessons!

Petra Frömsdorf
Petra Frömsdorf
Petra has been monitoring the world of online dating sites since 2003. In the media she is considered the leading expert on the topic of "online dating".